What is a genogram – and what does it really do?
A genogram is more than a family tree. It shows how people are connected – through closeness, distance, loyalty, or conflict. The crucial advantage lies in the visualization: relationships that remain abstract in conversation become visible and tangible.
Working on whiteboards or magnetic walls is particularly effective. Relationships can be moved, added to, or rearranged – and the entire system reacts visibly.
The magnetic genogram set , which depicts families across generations with 28 figures, is suitable for this work – ideal for coaching, therapy or training.
Transgenerational patterns – How history shapes the present
Behavior rarely arises by chance. Families pass on values, expectations, and reaction patterns – sometimes across many generations. Those who fail to recognize this often live according to internal scripts that aren't even their own.
- Repetitions: Similar relationship patterns, partner choices, or conflicts reappear.
- Assumed responsibility: Children unconsciously carry the emotional burden of their parents.
- Taboo topics: Guilt, loss, shame, or trauma continue to have an unspoken effect.
- Symptom as function: Behavior unconsciously fulfills a stabilizing task within the family system.
Practice: From conversation to a clear picture
1. Gather information
Birth dates, separations, illnesses, ruptures, migration – everything relevant is recorded on the surface. Visibility replaces abstract storytelling.
2. Characterize relationships
Who is close to whom, who is distant? Where are the fractures, who supports whom? Different lines and symbols create clarity and structure.
3. Test hypotheses
When a figure is moved, the entire system changes. Even small movements can reveal new relationships.
4. Make resources visible
Systemic work never ends with the problem. Courage, care, and loyalty are also part of the system – and can be specifically activated.
Systemic constellation work – understanding through experience
While the genogram provides structure, the constellation leads to experience. Whether with figures or representatives: The system becomes spatially and emotionally tangible.
- Positioning work: Figures are arranged in a way that seems coherent – and then deliberately changed.
- Symbolic relief: Assumed responsibility is returned, belonging is acknowledged, boundaries are made visible.
- Ritualized phrases: Short formulations ("I honor your fate and go my own way") have a clarifying and liberating effect.
The combination of cognitive clarity (genogram) and emotional experience (systemic constellation) enables sustainable change.
Real-world examples
Example 1: Always the strong one
Across three generations, the eldest daughter in each generation assumes responsibility for all the children. The genogram reveals that in the first generation, the father was absent from work early. The role was passed on – unconsciously. Intervention: Return responsibility, activate resources, redistribute tasks.
Example 2: Escape when close
A man withdraws as soon as a relationship develops. The genogram shows: His mother was emotionally dependent, his father distant. Closeness meant confinement. Insight: He can redefine closeness today – as a free choice, not an obligation.
Example 3: The unspoken event
In one family, the early death of a child was never discussed. Only through family constellation work did the issue come to light. The system relaxed, and symptoms lessened. Visibility replaced silence—and with it, tension.
Guide to getting started with genogram work
- Clarify the objective: What should be understood or changed?
- Setting the framework: time, data protection, emotional safety.
- Make it visible: Work on a whiteboard or magnetic surface – not just in your head.
- Mark patterns: repetitions, fractions, spaces.
- Test hypotheses: Move figures around, observe reactions.
- Integrating resources: Who or what provides support?
- Derive an action: Formulate a concrete change for everyday life.
The genogram set with 28 magnetic figures is suitable for this process – flexible, professional and intuitive.
Frequently asked questions about genogram work
Is a genogram only intended for therapy?
No. Genograms are also useful in coaching, consulting, education, supervision and training – anywhere where relationship structures need to be understood.
How deep should one research?
Only to the extent that it serves the purpose. A good working profile is more valuable than a flawless genealogical research.
How do you deal with sensitive topics?
With dignity, respect, and composure. Briefly state the issue, respect boundaries, and adjust the pace.
Which comes first – genogram or family constellation?
Often, the genogram serves as a starting point for gaining an overview and developing communication skills. The physical setup deepens understanding through experience. Both complement each other perfectly.
Final thought
Those who come to terms with their own origins gain freedom – not to correct the past, but to shape the present more consciously. Sometimes a clear look at what was is enough to experience what is anew.
